Growing up is a choice! Some people decide not to take it, no matter how old they are, and they have their reasons. But some people know for a fact, to them, that it is a must decision no matter how young they are.
Hi, this is Alpha, and before I start talking, if you are the head of your family, then this post is for you. Let me be completely honest with you. No one is perfect, we are humans, and are supposed to do mistakes, we are not angels. However we are supposed to control ourselves; because if we failed to do so, things will be a real mess up. Now, who wants to have mess up life anyway, I know I don't, and neither do you. believe me.
So here is the thing, I believe growing up is something that people have to comply with in certain point. There is no specific time or age for making up your mind for this step, however sometimes it might actually cost you a lot, if the decision was too late, as it's too late.
What you should do about it?
Set priorities in your life, and put in your mind that you Can Not have it all. Sacrifices must take place sooner or later; because you might lose it all my friend.
Some people in your life must go, they can not stick with you forever. They might be there for you when you need them for sure, but they can not stick around. Why? As I said, you can not have it all.
Sometimes, the only way to show people how we love them, is by giving them a bit of privacy, if we really care for them. Understanding this is hard sometimes, not only that, sometimes we want to stick with some people we know in our life, without noticing that we are hurting someone else.
When you start to set up priorities in your life, and moving on with your life with the ones who are important to you the most, then, and only then, you will figure out that, this is actually a part of growing up.
It is a big process indeed, and I am a part of it, and I am still growing up, I am still setting up priorities. Every phase in my life I change these priorities, depends on what is best for my family.
When things getting hard and confusing, I choose my family; because eventually, this is what matter, and anything else has to comply. It will be a big lie if I though that someone else will care about me more than my family.
Lifting your family up is your responsibility, and it also defines who you are. Don't get distracted with mixed emotions and start to be aware, before it is too late.
I have seen homes and families being destroyed; because the word "I", I want, I don't think, I don't care. Sometimes it is not bad at all to use "I", but not in all cases. Sometimes the word "We" is the right choice, specially when are addressing how our family feels about us.
For example and not limited, changing habits, of going our with your male/female friends every night, or playing games for hours without even sharing the fun with your family, or spending too much time on social media. Sharing your feelings about your family and family secrets with your friends, and leaving them literally naked in front of everyone's eyes to see their defects, this is not fair, and not only that, you are making them ugly in people eyes.
Some people are really sick and want to make sure you are not leaving them, even if the price for this is your family. They will always play the victim to you, and you will always feel weak in front of them, and you will buy it every single time my friend, and before you know it, your family is long time gone. Don't take your family for granted; they have feelings and they will react upon it, sooner or later.
I have seen families have been destroyed because of this, yet the man has now idea what went wrong.
So let me leave you with this. The more you create a gap between you and your family, the chance is big of losing them. And not seeing what went wrong is even worse than doing it.
This was Alpha F. Consulting. The genes of growing up!
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Hi, this is Alpha, and before I start talking, if you are the head of your family, then this post is for you. Let me be completely honest with you. No one is perfect, we are humans, and are supposed to do mistakes, we are not angels. However we are supposed to control ourselves; because if we failed to do so, things will be a real mess up. Now, who wants to have mess up life anyway, I know I don't, and neither do you. believe me.
So here is the thing, I believe growing up is something that people have to comply with in certain point. There is no specific time or age for making up your mind for this step, however sometimes it might actually cost you a lot, if the decision was too late, as it's too late.
What you should do about it?
Set priorities in your life, and put in your mind that you Can Not have it all. Sacrifices must take place sooner or later; because you might lose it all my friend.
Some people in your life must go, they can not stick with you forever. They might be there for you when you need them for sure, but they can not stick around. Why? As I said, you can not have it all.
Sometimes, the only way to show people how we love them, is by giving them a bit of privacy, if we really care for them. Understanding this is hard sometimes, not only that, sometimes we want to stick with some people we know in our life, without noticing that we are hurting someone else.
When you start to set up priorities in your life, and moving on with your life with the ones who are important to you the most, then, and only then, you will figure out that, this is actually a part of growing up.
It is a big process indeed, and I am a part of it, and I am still growing up, I am still setting up priorities. Every phase in my life I change these priorities, depends on what is best for my family.
When things getting hard and confusing, I choose my family; because eventually, this is what matter, and anything else has to comply. It will be a big lie if I though that someone else will care about me more than my family.
Lifting your family up is your responsibility, and it also defines who you are. Don't get distracted with mixed emotions and start to be aware, before it is too late.
I have seen homes and families being destroyed; because the word "I", I want, I don't think, I don't care. Sometimes it is not bad at all to use "I", but not in all cases. Sometimes the word "We" is the right choice, specially when are addressing how our family feels about us.
For example and not limited, changing habits, of going our with your male/female friends every night, or playing games for hours without even sharing the fun with your family, or spending too much time on social media. Sharing your feelings about your family and family secrets with your friends, and leaving them literally naked in front of everyone's eyes to see their defects, this is not fair, and not only that, you are making them ugly in people eyes.
Some people are really sick and want to make sure you are not leaving them, even if the price for this is your family. They will always play the victim to you, and you will always feel weak in front of them, and you will buy it every single time my friend, and before you know it, your family is long time gone. Don't take your family for granted; they have feelings and they will react upon it, sooner or later.
I have seen families have been destroyed because of this, yet the man has now idea what went wrong.
So let me leave you with this. The more you create a gap between you and your family, the chance is big of losing them. And not seeing what went wrong is even worse than doing it.
This was Alpha F. Consulting. The genes of growing up!
If you like this post please LIKE and SHARE
