How to work on your Self-esteem and Increase your Confidence (Defeat your Insecurities)

Hey! I am talking to you. I just want to say that, I know how you are feeling. It is okay to feel down, it is okay to feel broken, it is okay to fall.

How will you appreciate success without failure? how will you  appreciate a sunny day without a windy day. But the question remain!

Will you ever stand up again on your feet? Will you ever face your fear and get out of your comfort zone and defeat your insecurities?

I know I talk too much, it is one of my gifts, but sometimes it is a curse as well. It could could be The Curse of Pharaohs, for those who know that I have Egyptian descendant. But I feel that my job in this world is fixing things, even if I am the one who need to be fixed. As long there is a small possibility that I can help you, I will choose you over me. I am not a self-less person, but when I help you, some magical how, life return the favor to me.

Hi, this is Alpha, and enough talking about me, so listen.

You must meet people in your life that want to break you, without a reason, they will do it, and they will wait for you to make a wrong move that they can use against you in some point, people at work, in school, in college, in the street,or even within your family, but don't worry!


It is not your fault. there is nothing wrong with you. They will try to convince you with that, and you might believe them, actually you will believe them. It is okay; because this where the breaking down takes place.

Action required!

1. You need to disconnect from these people for a while.
2. Look in your mirror and remember who you are.
3. Start to work out by using the maximum weight you can handle
4. Look at your mirror and remember how cool you can be
5. Continue work out, it is all about the consistency.
6. Look at your mirror and remind yourself you are better than that
7. Put you hoodie on that know one can recognize you and go for jogging
8. Look at your mirror again and again and again, and tell your self, you are blessed, you are graced, you cannot thank God enough for what he gave you, say to your self you are sorry if you disappointed him, tell him everything good I have is because of you, and everything bad I have it is from me.
9. Cry.
10. Work out with more heavy weight and cry while you are carrying the weight, there is no shame in that.
11. It is heavy, I know it is heavy, I have been there, and I have done that.
12. Consistency is the key, keep lifting weight
13. Cry

You feel better now?

If you can handle the heavy weight, you can handle the stress that those people is giving you.
You are ready to face them again. Learn how to look to them in the eye. You will see them small. You will see all your problems are small.

Remember that they pushed you to lift that weight, they pushed you to sweat. they pushed you to unleash the beast inside of you. But you are not using this beast to hurt them. This beast is happy to smile at them.

You have struggled enough, and now no more struggles for you. You had your shares of struggle. Now you are ready to face the world with your new you.

Focus on your goals. Focus on your life. You used to focus on them. But now, you focus on you.

Remember, everyone has their weak points and they are trying to hide it. They want to break you so that they can feel great about themselves. They feel insecure when you are around, which is exactly your strength.

The time you spent away from them, working on yourself is worth it. They will see it in your eyes, just look straight at them when you pass by. Don't get involved in a sh**ty conversations, don't react on cheap jokes, don't be a part of useless debate, you are now bigger than that.


The bottom line here is. It is not about who is bad and who is good. It is about respect and you earned it.

Keep doing what you are doing; because you my friend are awesome.



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Growing Up is a Personal Decision (The Choice)

Growing up is a choice! Some people decide not to take it, no matter how old they are, and they have their reasons. But some people know for a fact, to them, that it is a must decision no matter how young they are.

Hi, this is Alpha, and before I start  talking, if you are the head of your family, then this post is for you. Let me be completely honest with you. No one is perfect, we are humans, and are supposed to do mistakes, we are not angels. However we are supposed to control ourselves; because if we failed to do so, things will be a real mess up. Now, who wants to have mess up life anyway, I know I don't, and neither do you. believe me.

So here is the thing, I believe growing up is something that people have to comply with in certain point. There is no specific time or age for making up your mind for this step, however sometimes it might actually cost you a lot, if the decision was too late, as it's too late.

What you should do about it?

Set priorities in your life, and put in your mind that you Can Not have it all. Sacrifices must take place sooner or later; because you might lose it all my friend.

Some people in your life must go, they can not stick with you forever. They might be there for you when you need them for sure, but they can not stick around. Why? As I said, you can not have it all.

Sometimes, the only way to show people how we love them, is by giving them a bit of privacy, if we really care for them. Understanding this is hard sometimes, not only that, sometimes we want to stick with some people we know in our life, without noticing that we are hurting someone else.

When you start to set up priorities in your life, and moving on with your life with the ones who are important to you the most, then, and only then, you will figure out that, this is actually a part of growing up.

It is a big process indeed, and I am a part of it, and I am still growing up, I am still setting up priorities. Every phase in my life I change these priorities, depends on what is best for my family.

When things getting hard and confusing, I choose my family; because eventually, this is what matter, and anything else has to comply. It will be a big lie if I though that someone else will care about me more than my family.

Lifting your family up is your responsibility, and it also defines who you are. Don't get distracted with mixed emotions and start to be aware, before it is too late.

I have seen homes and families being destroyed; because the word "I", I want, I don't think, I don't care. Sometimes it is not bad at all to use "I", but not in all cases. Sometimes the word "We" is the right choice, specially when are addressing how our family feels about us.

For example and not limited, changing habits, of going our with your male/female friends every night, or playing games for hours without even sharing the fun with your family, or spending too much time on social media. Sharing your feelings about your family and family secrets with your friends, and leaving them literally naked in front of everyone's eyes to see their defects, this is not fair, and not only that, you are making them ugly in people eyes.

Some people are really sick and want to make sure you are not leaving them, even if the price for this is your family. They will always play the victim to you, and you will always feel weak in front of them, and you will buy it every single time my friend, and before you know it, your family is long time gone. Don't take your family for granted; they have feelings and they will react upon it, sooner or later.

I have seen families have been destroyed because of this, yet the man has now idea what went wrong.

So let me leave you with this. The more you create a gap between you and your family, the chance is big of losing them. And not seeing what went wrong is even worse than doing it.



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