Growing Up is a Personal Decision (The Choice)

Growing up is a choice! Some people decide not to take it, no matter how old they are, and they have their reasons. But some people know for a fact, to them, that it is a must decision no matter how young they are.

Hi, this is Alpha, and before I start  talking, if you are the head of your family, then this post is for you. Let me be completely honest with you. No one is perfect, we are humans, and are supposed to do mistakes, we are not angels. However we are supposed to control ourselves; because if we failed to do so, things will be a real mess up. Now, who wants to have mess up life anyway, I know I don't, and neither do you. believe me.

So here is the thing, I believe growing up is something that people have to comply with in certain point. There is no specific time or age for making up your mind for this step, however sometimes it might actually cost you a lot, if the decision was too late, as it's too late.

What you should do about it?

Set priorities in your life, and put in your mind that you Can Not have it all. Sacrifices must take place sooner or later; because you might lose it all my friend.

Some people in your life must go, they can not stick with you forever. They might be there for you when you need them for sure, but they can not stick around. Why? As I said, you can not have it all.

Sometimes, the only way to show people how we love them, is by giving them a bit of privacy, if we really care for them. Understanding this is hard sometimes, not only that, sometimes we want to stick with some people we know in our life, without noticing that we are hurting someone else.

When you start to set up priorities in your life, and moving on with your life with the ones who are important to you the most, then, and only then, you will figure out that, this is actually a part of growing up.

It is a big process indeed, and I am a part of it, and I am still growing up, I am still setting up priorities. Every phase in my life I change these priorities, depends on what is best for my family.

When things getting hard and confusing, I choose my family; because eventually, this is what matter, and anything else has to comply. It will be a big lie if I though that someone else will care about me more than my family.

Lifting your family up is your responsibility, and it also defines who you are. Don't get distracted with mixed emotions and start to be aware, before it is too late.

I have seen homes and families being destroyed; because the word "I", I want, I don't think, I don't care. Sometimes it is not bad at all to use "I", but not in all cases. Sometimes the word "We" is the right choice, specially when are addressing how our family feels about us.

For example and not limited, changing habits, of going our with your male/female friends every night, or playing games for hours without even sharing the fun with your family, or spending too much time on social media. Sharing your feelings about your family and family secrets with your friends, and leaving them literally naked in front of everyone's eyes to see their defects, this is not fair, and not only that, you are making them ugly in people eyes.

Some people are really sick and want to make sure you are not leaving them, even if the price for this is your family. They will always play the victim to you, and you will always feel weak in front of them, and you will buy it every single time my friend, and before you know it, your family is long time gone. Don't take your family for granted; they have feelings and they will react upon it, sooner or later.

I have seen families have been destroyed because of this, yet the man has now idea what went wrong.

So let me leave you with this. The more you create a gap between you and your family, the chance is big of losing them. And not seeing what went wrong is even worse than doing it.



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Marriage Dilemma (Her feelings matter) / The End [Part 4 of 4]

Marriage, Oh Boy!

You know! Any normal man would love to live happy and exciting marriage, not only women, but we always find a short cut to screw it up.

This is Adam from Alpha F. Consulting and in this topic we are going to continue what we have discussed in previous post.

Everything is fine and everything looks good, until this happens.

Out of nowhere, another woman shows up in the picture, you think she is attractive, the way she is talking, she speaks your language, and you feel homesickness and finally found someone to talk to, but this is your side of the story and this could be your intention - in the beginning -, but she has different plans for you.

Your wife started to feel that you have changed. The truth is she already knows.
She has always been worried about this moment. She is aware she is not that super sexy anymore.

She is giving you hard time now, she has no proof, She is giving you a hard time now, she has no proof, but sooner or later she will. Her sixth sense is sending her brain a signal, the signal says, "Hey! There is another woman".

This is no longer about feeling insecure about not being in shape, or for gaining weight! Oh no, this is about another woman trying to take her man away from her.

What you don't know as a man, you have just broken, humiliated, and destroyed her self steam, her self confidence, what a shame.

This beautiful creation of God, that God has gifted you, this woman you have chosen, and you are doing this to her?

I am not saying all women are good at all, but also not all men are good either.

So now, your woman try to protect her family, try to protect her marriage and keep her husband.

So she take a decision and step down from her throne. She decides to humiliate her self, and give up her pride for the sake of protecting her family.

She goes to the place where her husband works, just to face the other woman who is trying to take her husband from her.

And she gets the opportunity to face her, but also she gets one of those responses that leave marks and hurts more than getting stabbed with a knife. - Your Man is the one who came to me -.

Listen! Why would you do that to your wife? Why you told her those sweet words when you first met her, why you decided to marry her, why you gave her hope then took it away from her, you have no right to do this to a woman.

Everyone in the office know the story, your actions speak louder than words, your actions say, my wife is a piece of trash, my wife is useless, my wife is not important, she is nothing, she is a joke, so every time people will see her in the mall, or a grocery shop, first thing will cross their mind, is what your actions say about her.

Are you happy now?
Look what you have done! Yet, she has not leave you yet, she is still hoping that love will come around once again and you will love her again.

Can't you see?
You have lost your way my friend.

I am done here. I said what I had to say and I said what I have felt.

I hope you felt something too.

That woman who is trying to steal you, she don't give a damn about your life, and the moment she walked in your life, knowing that you are married man, she will leave for someone better than you.

Because for her, she has no morals, no ethics, how could you trust her, how could you ignore what she is doing? The time you waste on her is too long that you should have spent it fix your own marriage, this is a poison in a honey, you see her attractive, the way she approach you, the way she is close to you, she is not playing, she knows exactly what she does to you, in fact she is too smart that you will think she is natural, she is too smart that will make you think she is not trying with you, but she is, absolutely is.

You think everything is easy with her. Of course, she is not your wife, her make up is always on, dressed up and looking good. Yes I know, but your wife was like this once, and she can be the most sexist woman on earth if you gave her the chance, if you left her up, if you take care of her heart, if you left her self-steam up, her confidence. Don't be selfish and be a human, be fair, become what a man supposed to be.

Story has not ended yet. It is your move now!


This is Adam from Alpha F. Consulting.

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Marriage Dilemma - The Story Continues! [Part 3 of 4]

Marriage Dilemma! Before we proceed with our story, I just want to grab your attention to something very important. I was really surprised if not shocked that men always ignoring it!

This is Adam from Alpha F. Consulting and in this topic we are getting closer to some facts and we - Men - are ignoring.- In the light of our previous post.

When you decide to get marry, our women are not the same as when we were dating them.

Meaning, she was super fit, at one point when you were dating, she looks stunning, always pretty, make up is perfect, no responsibilities on the man except that the gentleman will pay the bill of the restaurant on that day. and that is it.

After marriage, things change, not because she does not want to, but because she does not have the time to do all of that; because you live together now, she can not be perfect!

Specially, if she gave birth to a baby, she gain weight, she eats more, and most likely you can kiss the "super fit" goodbye.

It is not her fault, this is how women body works. Forget about those women on Instagram, this is not real, this is photo editing, light system, Photoshop, even if those are real women, let me tell you my friend, those are models and they are doing this for living, they are getting paid to look like this, if they don't look like this, they will lose there jobs. Same goes to actresses and singers. This is the media working with all what they got to destroy your small family.

Instead of you saying nice words to your woman and help them with their self steam, you are destroying any potential they might have to change.

You think they don't know? You think they are happy with their body changes? Believe they are not, and you are not helping them to be better, you don't show your understanding, and you blame them for not taking care of themselves.

Instead, you start to look for someone else, someone perfect, someone with nice body, just like the time when you met your lovely wife.

Are we stupid? or we're just ignoring these facts?

Gentlemen! The sexy girl you are going out with instead of your wife, she does not have a life, and even the fact she is going out and dating a married man is enough clue that she has no morals for accepting dating you.

That Girl!

She was not there when you worked hard and saved money to buy this apartment/house/car, on the contrary, your wife did, and she was patient with you and supported you emotionally if not financially,  and she gave you everything she can, just to see you happy.

The other girl, she is seeing a handsome guy with a car and stable job, a guy can afford her dinner and to show off in front of her friends and to satisfy even her needs, and of course the guy is so dump; because he is seeing her perfect, always dressed up with full make up, and he forgets the fact that his wife even more beautiful than her, but stupidity is stronger than facts.

Now your wife feels insecure, and you are the one and only reason behind that, congratulations! you just broke your wife.

You think that it is easy and your wife is just jealous and giving you hard time? Seriously!

Let me tell you, this is not jealousy, this is not even close to that. This you destroying, demolishing, breaking, knocking down, and killing the heart of the woman you have loved once and the woman how has accepted to be your wife, the mother of your baby, even if God did not grant you a baby yet, still i would not change a thing from what i said. Be careful, this is a woman heart you are dealing with.

 So if you think that it is "jealousy", PLEASE THINK AGAIN!

This is Adam from Alpha F. Consulting. See you next post!

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