Single Moms....From my perspective!

Single Moms! A sensitive topic.

This is Adam from Alpha F. Consulting and we are taking this topic to the next level. It is time to speak the truth.

When I say a single mom, I do not mean widowed, I do not mean divorcee, but I mean a single mom.

Lets's go back in time, you know, high school maybe, teenager life why not, okay good, stop right there!

So, what we got here! An innocent girl who is in love with a boy, not yet a guy, they are both kids, no parents supervision, with the media and internet nowadays, there are no limits, pop music, rock, RN'B, rap, hip hop, you name it, everyone trying to blindly imitate the super stars, everyone want to be a STAR.

The lyrics touch the soul and abuse it to the limit, with the absence of supervision, you get a lost generation who refuse to live and accept reality and choose fantasy over reality, and who does not?

When you are too young to take a decision, when you are in a dilemma between following your mind or your heart, don't we all have been there?

So here is one out of hundreds scenarios that the society is ignoring...

The girl who fell in love with a guy in school, she has a crush on him, both are living in their own bubble, she wants to prove her love to him, on the other hand, he is waiting for a prove from her end, living the moment, exploring each other, no limits, no boundaries, no parents, no nothing.

She wants to feel sexy and wanted, too early for this? Well, she has different opinion, actually both of them has different opinion, but they don't understand the consequences of their own actions. Too young? Again they both have different opinion, free world, freedom, new world order, be what you want to be.

Temporary happiness that ruins a woman's life forever; because she gets pregnant without a marriage.

The Kid, gets panic, OMG! I am a father? Now he realize he is too young to be a father, he finds his way to break up with her.

What are her choices, she is having a baby on the way, i am not going to talk about how she will deliver the news to her family, it is indeed a tough process, specially if she came from poor family.

She drop her school, looking for cheap job, because she is not even a graduate, wants to prove to her family and her society that she is adult and she can take of herself.

Girl, you are very young and beautiful, you don't have to go through this, you are valued, your body is sacred, why you need to do this to yourself? Because the truth is, you don't need to prove anything to anyone.

Wait for the right time, the one who have created you and brought you to this world will never forget about you, you are not suppose to suffer, you are suppose to life your age, and graduate, and chase your career, and make your dreams come true.

The time and energy you will waste on the wrong relationship, you can use it to invest in your self, work out, no need to go to GYM, not everyone can afford it, workout at home, be sexy for your future husband, marriage is beautiful and worth waiting for. But be careful, you don't need to be with a guy who appreciate how sexy you are, big mistake, you want a guy who appreciate your mind, your character, no one is perfect, and your mind matter.

The media is telling you, in order for you to be a lady, you have to show more the society, don't fall for this girl, you are not an object, you are not an item, you are a beautiful creature that God brought to the world, to teach and educate generations after generations, bring leaders that the world needs, you are meant to be a leader not follower, you are matter.

Teenage is not an easy stage, but if you work on your self steam and confidence with working out and eating healthy food, you will find your self in way different bubble, you will be in control of your life, not some douche will control you.

I have seen and experience so many things in life, I have talked with so many people, you can trust me on this when I say it, live your own age, work out, eat healthy, and the time will fly and you will be amazed with how this effected your life.

But I have to say, there is always good men out there who is taking care of their women. Also there is bad women who chose to do wrongs. There is good parents as well who knows how to take care of their children, there is too many good examples out there in every society.

The purpose behind this post is to offer help as much as we can, for those who are seeking the help.

This is Adam from Alpha F. Consulting. Too young to suffer!

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Marriage Dilemma (Her feelings matter) / The End [Part 4 of 4]

Marriage, Oh Boy!

You know! Any normal man would love to live happy and exciting marriage, not only women, but we always find a short cut to screw it up.

This is Adam from Alpha F. Consulting and in this topic we are going to continue what we have discussed in previous post.

Everything is fine and everything looks good, until this happens.

Out of nowhere, another woman shows up in the picture, you think she is attractive, the way she is talking, she speaks your language, and you feel homesickness and finally found someone to talk to, but this is your side of the story and this could be your intention - in the beginning -, but she has different plans for you.

Your wife started to feel that you have changed. The truth is she already knows.
She has always been worried about this moment. She is aware she is not that super sexy anymore.

She is giving you hard time now, she has no proof, She is giving you a hard time now, she has no proof, but sooner or later she will. Her sixth sense is sending her brain a signal, the signal says, "Hey! There is another woman".

This is no longer about feeling insecure about not being in shape, or for gaining weight! Oh no, this is about another woman trying to take her man away from her.

What you don't know as a man, you have just broken, humiliated, and destroyed her self steam, her self confidence, what a shame.

This beautiful creation of God, that God has gifted you, this woman you have chosen, and you are doing this to her?

I am not saying all women are good at all, but also not all men are good either.

So now, your woman try to protect her family, try to protect her marriage and keep her husband.

So she take a decision and step down from her throne. She decides to humiliate her self, and give up her pride for the sake of protecting her family.

She goes to the place where her husband works, just to face the other woman who is trying to take her husband from her.

And she gets the opportunity to face her, but also she gets one of those responses that leave marks and hurts more than getting stabbed with a knife. - Your Man is the one who came to me -.

Listen! Why would you do that to your wife? Why you told her those sweet words when you first met her, why you decided to marry her, why you gave her hope then took it away from her, you have no right to do this to a woman.

Everyone in the office know the story, your actions speak louder than words, your actions say, my wife is a piece of trash, my wife is useless, my wife is not important, she is nothing, she is a joke, so every time people will see her in the mall, or a grocery shop, first thing will cross their mind, is what your actions say about her.

Are you happy now?
Look what you have done! Yet, she has not leave you yet, she is still hoping that love will come around once again and you will love her again.

Can't you see?
You have lost your way my friend.

I am done here. I said what I had to say and I said what I have felt.

I hope you felt something too.

That woman who is trying to steal you, she don't give a damn about your life, and the moment she walked in your life, knowing that you are married man, she will leave for someone better than you.

Because for her, she has no morals, no ethics, how could you trust her, how could you ignore what she is doing? The time you waste on her is too long that you should have spent it fix your own marriage, this is a poison in a honey, you see her attractive, the way she approach you, the way she is close to you, she is not playing, she knows exactly what she does to you, in fact she is too smart that you will think she is natural, she is too smart that will make you think she is not trying with you, but she is, absolutely is.

You think everything is easy with her. Of course, she is not your wife, her make up is always on, dressed up and looking good. Yes I know, but your wife was like this once, and she can be the most sexist woman on earth if you gave her the chance, if you left her up, if you take care of her heart, if you left her self-steam up, her confidence. Don't be selfish and be a human, be fair, become what a man supposed to be.

Story has not ended yet. It is your move now!


This is Adam from Alpha F. Consulting.

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Marriage Dilemma - The Story Continues! [Part 3 of 4]

Marriage Dilemma! Before we proceed with our story, I just want to grab your attention to something very important. I was really surprised if not shocked that men always ignoring it!

This is Adam from Alpha F. Consulting and in this topic we are getting closer to some facts and we - Men - are ignoring.- In the light of our previous post.

When you decide to get marry, our women are not the same as when we were dating them.

Meaning, she was super fit, at one point when you were dating, she looks stunning, always pretty, make up is perfect, no responsibilities on the man except that the gentleman will pay the bill of the restaurant on that day. and that is it.

After marriage, things change, not because she does not want to, but because she does not have the time to do all of that; because you live together now, she can not be perfect!

Specially, if she gave birth to a baby, she gain weight, she eats more, and most likely you can kiss the "super fit" goodbye.

It is not her fault, this is how women body works. Forget about those women on Instagram, this is not real, this is photo editing, light system, Photoshop, even if those are real women, let me tell you my friend, those are models and they are doing this for living, they are getting paid to look like this, if they don't look like this, they will lose there jobs. Same goes to actresses and singers. This is the media working with all what they got to destroy your small family.

Instead of you saying nice words to your woman and help them with their self steam, you are destroying any potential they might have to change.

You think they don't know? You think they are happy with their body changes? Believe they are not, and you are not helping them to be better, you don't show your understanding, and you blame them for not taking care of themselves.

Instead, you start to look for someone else, someone perfect, someone with nice body, just like the time when you met your lovely wife.

Are we stupid? or we're just ignoring these facts?

Gentlemen! The sexy girl you are going out with instead of your wife, she does not have a life, and even the fact she is going out and dating a married man is enough clue that she has no morals for accepting dating you.

That Girl!

She was not there when you worked hard and saved money to buy this apartment/house/car, on the contrary, your wife did, and she was patient with you and supported you emotionally if not financially,  and she gave you everything she can, just to see you happy.

The other girl, she is seeing a handsome guy with a car and stable job, a guy can afford her dinner and to show off in front of her friends and to satisfy even her needs, and of course the guy is so dump; because he is seeing her perfect, always dressed up with full make up, and he forgets the fact that his wife even more beautiful than her, but stupidity is stronger than facts.

Now your wife feels insecure, and you are the one and only reason behind that, congratulations! you just broke your wife.

You think that it is easy and your wife is just jealous and giving you hard time? Seriously!

Let me tell you, this is not jealousy, this is not even close to that. This you destroying, demolishing, breaking, knocking down, and killing the heart of the woman you have loved once and the woman how has accepted to be your wife, the mother of your baby, even if God did not grant you a baby yet, still i would not change a thing from what i said. Be careful, this is a woman heart you are dealing with.

 So if you think that it is "jealousy", PLEASE THINK AGAIN!

This is Adam from Alpha F. Consulting. See you next post!

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Is it really a dilemma?!! #Marriage [Part 2 of 4]

Marriage! Is it really a dilemma?

This is Adam from Alpha F. Consulting and in this topic we are going to continue what we have discussed in previous post.

Here is a story, I am afraid that it is actually a real one and it is one of the cases I have observed, and hopefully it will have a happy ending.

With faith and logic, anything is possible, and maybe the love will come around.

I am not exaggerating!

You travel abroad for a vacation, not worrying about a thing, you are young, you got cash, not too much, but just enough for your fantastic vacation.

Your destination is the Philippines Islands. Everyone knows how beautiful that place is, too many islands and too may places to go.

You meet the girl of your dreams, and this is so beautiful, when you are not planning to fall in love.

Anyway, couple of dinners and couple of drinks, you like the attitude, she is smart, knowledgeable, and you have enough time to just know it, I want to marry this girl.

Let's stop here for a moment, so you left your country, not a single señorita grabbed your attention, and you go way far to a country that don' speak your language, and the only language you are using to communicate is English, and you were impressed by this woman you have met, the woman of your dreams, and she is 10 baby.

When you decide to get marry and settle down with a stable job, it is a one way road, not because divorce is bad or hard, but because you know you have felt something, you felt different, something happen inside of you, that makes you want to take this relationship to next level, and you should; because you can't just ignore this feeling that easy.

This is not a scene from a movie, or chapter from a novel either, this feeling is real, and your job is to make sure, that this feeling will continue growing and protect it.

People change, and this is understood, but there is a reason behind that change. Break up, not necessarily is the solution when people change. However, when there is a change, it is indeed a sign for you to realize that "Something is wrong need to be fixed", and not that"Something is wrong, it is time to runaway". I am just saying it happens and I have seen a lot of break ups in front of me and relationships ended, even though they had a chance to work there relationships out, but instead they took the easy.

The good news is, so far, for this story I am sharing with you, no one has changed, yet!

This is Adam from Alpha F. Consulting. Stay Tuned for next!
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Marriage.. What a dilemma?!! [Part 1 of 4]

This blog is on relationships. To be more precise, it's about marriage.

Marriage is beautiful! And don't believe anyone who tells you that it's not. Yes marriage is beautiful - by default - Yet it is hard to understand, or you can say that it's "NOT EASY" for everyone to get the hint of it. What was possible yesterday with old peeps, it may not work for us today, life was easier before, in a way that by time, marriage became more complicated, and so is everything beautiful, it is always complicated. Can you describe how you feel when you eat chocolate? It is complicated. Exactly! Other than this, having a stable marriage now, especially these days, it is something, it really is.

You don't see it beautiful; because of many reasons. Maybe the information that was exposed to you are actually came from wrong resources, like movies, books, or even a blog just like this one. Maybe you are getting your information from people don't have the privilege to discuss this topic with you, or they are losers by all means and have no rights to tell you what to do.

I will leave the judge to you.

In the light of this topic, allow me to talk to men, because believe it or not, the key is in our hand - Men - and not the women. I am not saying that women cannot have the key per se, But I believe that we - men - should do the hard work in the relationship. And I know for a fact that since life started, we have always blamed women for pretty much everything, since "The Apple", which is, decades, I mean come on, will you stop it already!

So let me be a little bit in your faith and tell you, that it is all in our hands - Men - But we have always chosen the easy way out. We have wasted too many chances and opportunities to fix all the problems we have in our relationships, that can led us eventually to eternal happiness, by understanding what marriage is all about, do not hate what you don't understand. But we are so dumb that we give it all away and continue complaining about everything and blame her instead.

Nothing more easier than running away! If you are that type person, then maybe marriage and relationship is not for you. I mean you have to be clear from the beginning, instead of hurting people's feelings. I mean Man up dude!

Not all the men necessarily is doing the same thing, I mean, through the history of men, we have always known great men, responsible men, and there is still among us so many men who are actually doing a great job, no doubts. I am just putting the light on some behaviors that need to have an end.

This is Adam from Alpha F. Consulting. Stay Tuned for more on this topic!

Other topics:

Is it really a dilemma?!! #Marriage [Part 2 of 4]

http://alphafconsulting.blogspot.com/2017/06/is-it-really-dilemma-marriage.html

Marriage Dilemma - The Story Continues! [Part 3 of 4]

http://alphafconsulting.blogspot.com/2017/06/marriage-dilemma-story-continuation.html

Marriage Dilemma (Her feelings matter) / The End [Part 4 of 4]

http://alphafconsulting.blogspot.com/2017/06/marriage-dilemma-her-feelings-matter.html

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